欲取姑与将欲取之，必先与之yù qǔ gū yǔgive in order to take; make concessions for the sake of future gains
❍ 关于丧失土地的问题，常有这样的情形，就是只有丧失才能不丧失，这是“将欲取之必先与之”的原则。(《毛泽东选集》195) As for loss of territory,it often happens that only by loss can loss be avoided;this is the principle of “Give in order to take”./将欲夺之，必固与之；是谓微明。(《老子·三十六章》)In order to grasp,|It is necessary first to give.|This is called subtle light. 欲取姑与yù qǔ ɡū yǔ姑：暂且。想取得什么，就先给予他一点什么。give in order to take, make concessions for the sake of future gains |