反求诸己fǎn qiú zhū jǐlook for cause of failure in oneself; reflect and try to find fault in oneself;seek the cause in oneself (instead of in sb else)
❍ 仁者如射，射者正己而后发，发而不中，不怨胜己者，～而已矣。(《孟子·离娄上》) The man who would be benevolent is like the archer. The archer adjusts himself and then shoots. If he misses,he does not murmur against those who surpass himself. He simply turns round and seeks the cause of his failure in himself. 反求诸己fǎn qiú zhū jǐ求：寻求，追究；诸：为“之于”的合音。反过来在自己身上追究。seek the cause in oneself, self-examination, reflect and try to find fault in oneself |